Would you rather date: A misogynistic, mansplaining “alpha male” who never posts on social media because he thinks being mysterious makes him superior, or a matcha-drinking, tote-bag-wearing pick-me boy who posts every moment of his life on his story and makes everything look like a curated retro recap? Be honest: which one is worse, and why?
Honestly, the guy who talks down to you is by far the tougher one to deal with. The emo-performance guy is still just desperately crafting a 'self that wants to be seen,' so if you become close there’s a chance you’ll see his true self. But a guy who acts like 'I know more than you, you know' isn’t interested in this world or these emotions, so a conversation can’t even start.
The condescending guy is tougher; just being around him would relentlessly chip away at my self-esteem, so I can’t handle it 😇 The guy who’s desperately trying to set the mood can still be endured a bit longer since you could joke about it as a running gag like, "you’re getting emo again".
I’m firmly in the camp that men who try to make their entire life look fashionable are tougher to deal with. A condescending attitude you can still fight against with a “refute me” or “bring data,” but the “emotional performance guy” makes you feel like you’re being forced to live in a world filtered 24/7, and having everyday life turned into content is exhausting.